Simply having a camera around can make people feel tense and uneasy even if they have purposely hired a professional to try to make the best of it. A photography session can bring up so much stress - will my kids behave, will I look the least bit flattering in the images, will my divorced parents handle being in photographs together at the wedding, will my husband manage to not look awkward and uncomfortable. So much! At one wedding, when it came time to do the family and couple photos post ceremony the groom just wanted to go join the fun and not spend time with the posed portraits. Understandable and honestly, a normal response. The bride had let me know ahead of time about this so we just made sure that his time having to be there was very limited. We gathered the people, had the location picked and just had him pop over for about 10 minutes and were able to capture great photos. He was not stressed which made the bride feel relaxed too.
Planning for the possible hiccups and just being someone who doesn't mind a bit of pressure (calm and collected are words to describe me) make the more high intensity moments feel like more of a bump rather than a mountain. If you know that your kids can get easily distracted lets think of a way prior to the session that might keep them focused or maybe we just plan a session where the family is doing an activity that doesn't everyone posed smiling at the camera. If you absolutely dread having your photo taken, let's talk about why and come up with ways to make sure you love what you see. A little pre planning and my low stress attitude will make for a fun, easy session.